I hope those who are with their husbands and boyfriends are still happy and together with them. I am only replying cause I found some other replies from a few months ago.
I think maybe we get traditional and controlling confused. My husband is traditional, and not controling. He is American, and we have been together for almost 14 years. We have 5 kids all girls! I think traditional men make far better husbands, because they are reliable, secure, care enough about their kids to spend more time with them than their friends. Controlling men will do things to make you feel like you are incapable of doing anything, and so much of a waste that no other man could ever want you. They will constantly disagree with your views, but instead of disagreeing with you, they will always tell you you are wrong, they will subtly put you down, ie: "you look nice, its not the kind of thing I would have you wear" "your breasts aren't what I like but they are good enough" they will interact with you in a way that will make you feel like a child, or brainless, or incompetent. This is a man that is controlling. And with this man, you will never be good enough, because he is insecure and knows you are the only woman around fool enough to put up with his garbage and not knock his teeth out the back of his head.
Traditional men come home after work, they are the primary bread winners, they like having someone take care of them, put dinner on the table, breakfast in their bellies etc.. They fix things that are broken in the house, they know how to change tires, and will change your tire rather than have you do it because its YOUR car. They will pump the gas. They will open your doors, pay for your dates and not require sex as payment for them paying for your dates. They will be nice to your parents and siblings. They will not throw a tantrum if you want to take care of your parents or his, because that is what you are supposed to do. They will mow the lawn, still watch sports or pursue their hobbies, but never put those hobbies before their kids. They will not sit at home while you work three jobs to make ends meet and expect you to cook the meals, do all the child rearing, and housework. Traditional men are partners that never leave you feeling like anything but a woman and he is nothing less than a real man. You are never a washed up housewife, never a cow with udders (I breastfed all of my kids), a workhorse. You are always a woman. Sex is only as good as the couple make it, you have to be compatible for good sex.
Traditional men in the anglo countries are rare to find. I know this, been there done that. So if you want a traditional man, and you have a better chance of finding him in Croatia, then go for it, and get yourself one. I strongly recommend this breed of man. They are the best. They are the ones who will fight to protect you if someone comes into your home and tries to assault you, they do not whine at all, and somewhere down the line, they learned what being a man is, and are very secure in the fact that they are one. So they have nothing to prove. No short man syndrome, fat man syndrome and all that baggage.
I think that Croatian women are clearly damn good or they wouldn't have managed to raise such a large portion of good men. And this is good, because I have four more daughters. I will send them your way when they have finished college.
